5 Essential Tips for Fostering at Christmas

While Christmas is often seen as a magical time of year, it can also be a challenging period for foster children who may feel separated from their birth families. Memories can resurface with overwhelming intensity, and it’s completely normal for children to experience feelings of exclusion as families celebrate together, continuing cherished traditions.

However, with a little sensitivity and care, your family can still enjoy a joyful holiday season. Christmas presents a wonderful opportunity to foster integration and build meaningful connections over festive decorations, delicious meals, and laughter. By inviting foster children to share in the celebrations, you can help them feel valued and included, perhaps for the first time ever.

Let’s explore some of the challenges that may arise during Christmas for foster families, followed by five tips for a stress-free festive experience.

Challenges to consider when fostering at Christmas

For many foster children, Christmas can trigger memories of past experiences with their birth families. Some may have never had the chance to celebrate, while others might feel a deep sense of loss or nostalgia for familiar traditions. Be prepared for children to display a range of emotions—mood swings, withdrawal, or outbursts might occur as they navigate these feelings.

Additionally, the lead-up to Christmas can be challenging, as reminders of the holidays are everywhere, from festive decorations in shops to holiday-themed TV ads. For children separated from much-loved siblings and cousins, the anticipation may not bring joy but rather sadness.

Another important factor to consider is the diverse beliefs and practices among children in care. Not every child may celebrate Christmas in a traditional way, and while many fostering agencies strive to match children with families who share similar beliefs, it’s not always possible. Your child’s social worker can provide guidance on how to navigate the festive season respectfully, honouring different customs and traditions.

5 ways to make Christmas in foster care special

Christmas is a fantastic opportunity to create lasting memories and foster a sense of belonging. Here are five ways to make the festive season enjoyable for everyone:

1. Prepare Foster Children for the Festivities Ahead Structure and routine are vital for foster children, as they provide a sense of safety. Avoid spontaneous celebrations that may cause anxiety. Instead, use a calendar to mark special events and communicate plans well in advance. Involve your foster child in the planning to give them a sense of control and comfort.

2. Involve the Child’s Birth Family If Appropriate It’s essential to ensure that foster children don’t feel like they are replacing their birth families. Many children miss their parents and siblings, especially during the holidays. You can help by facilitating contact with their birth family through cards or social worker arrangements. Encourage open conversations about past Christmases, allowing them to share their feelings and experiences.

3. Include Foster Children in Christmas Activities Engage in fun holiday activities as a family! Decorate the tree together, bake festive treats like mince pies, or enjoy classic winter movies. Board games and outings to see Christmas lights or visit Santa can create joyful bonding experiences for all family members.

4. Create New Traditions Together While it’s important to maintain existing family traditions for your birth children, consider asking your foster child what they would like to do to make Christmas special. Incorporating their interests can make the holidays more exciting for everyone. You might even start new traditions that celebrate your unique family dynamic.

5. Maintain a Calm Environment Christmas can sometimes be overwhelming with numerous festivities and guests. It’s crucial to keep celebrations manageable, especially if it’s your foster child’s first Christmas in care. Prepare them for any visitors by sharing information and photos so they can feel more comfortable. Encourage guests to introduce themselves warmly and give the child space if needed.

We’re here to help over the Christmas period

We understand that Christmas can be both magical and challenging, especially when caring for vulnerable children. At Olive Branch Fostering, we offer a wealth of support during this festive season, including advice groups and 24/7 helplines to ensure your family’s wellbeing.

If you have any questions or need assistance, please don’t hesitate to contact us. Our friendly team is here to help, and you can contact us at 01706 595715. Wishing you a warm and joyful holiday season!